So I've been seeing this girl who lives in Arlington. We went to high school together and have since reconnected last Thanksgiving. Ever since then we have been slowly talking and getting to know each other. However, now we're officially "dating". I would almost have to say we're somewhat in a relationship now too. It's not officially official yet, but pretty darn close. I'm not sure what to do though.
She is about to start a clinicial lab sciences program which may lead to her finishing a Master's degree. The CLS program alone will be 16 months of her life. She will be a full-time student during the day 8-5pm and will have to work part-time in the evenings and on weekends to make ends meet. Which means, we will never be able to see each other. If we don't have our weekends, then dating is going to be impossible. At least from my logical point of view. A real relationship...at least a healthy one, needs in person contact. Internet and txt msging only go so far. You HAVE to see each other and spend time together in person. CONTACT. That's what it's all about. And damn my luck, we're about to not even have that. Not as if the long distance wasn't bad enough. Now we'll never see each other...at least not for 16 months or 2 years. She's been here the last 3 weekends to see me. We've met each other's parents and have talked about what to do. Neither of us have any answers.
I'm starting a heavy 2 class summer session for my MBA, and I myself have at least 16 months to go. Some friends have said, "Just wait the 16 months when you're both finished with school.". No...that doesn't work for me. People change...feelings change...I don't know that we're solid enough right now to go almost 2 years without really having contact and STILL want to be together at the end of that. To be honest, I really don't know her that well. We went to HS, but were never friends then. If you add up all the time we've spent in person together since Nov08, it's been maybe 3-4 weeks. Of course we chat, talk on the phone, txt, and email 10000X a day. But still...in person..maybe 4 weeks. She's starting the 16 month long CLS program in the summer. We have until July, and then (if she does the program), our relationship comes crashing to a halt. She says she doesn't want that and I know for sure I don't. But I'm clueless as to how to make this work.
My instincts are telling me to just bail. Why fight for it when it's still so new and we're not "in love" or anything? Friends have told me I would be stupid to do that. They've said, "You never know. Everything can change in 6 months...it could change tomorrow....don't give up just yet". But I don't want to sit here and wish and hope that she doesn't do the program. That would be selfish and wrong of me. But to be honest...deep down...I wish she would just find a better job and not go to this program. At least then we'd have our weekends together. :-(
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Here's what I think (not that you were holding your breath or anything for my response...haha): Stick with it, see each other whenever possible, talk whenever possible, see what develops (or doesn't). I know it's cliche, but whatever is meant to be, will be. But you gotta put forth effort on the things you want...sounds like you have some abivalence about whether or not you want it...but it sounds like it's not because of her, but just because of the situation and what might come of it. So in other words, if you like her and you want to see where things go you have to take the plunge and go for it. It will be hard, but relationships are hard anyway, and risky, so you might as well approach it with someone you like.
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